Whenever I hear a suffering client say "oh it's all just my fate", I know we have challenging work ahead. Yes, it's not uncommon for...

Have you ever felt there are parts of yourself that you avoid or dislike? These are the parts that you disown over the years for whatever...

It's human nature to want to be liked and feel belong. While pursuing this, many of us lose sight of what we want and who we really are. ...

Have you ever wondered why people tend to have more personal space in big cities? Counterintuitive, isn't it? Shouldn't there be less...

No one is 100% sure of themselves, and you don't need to be 100% sure to start doing the thing you always wanted. It's only fun when you...

Since my early 20s, I've been grateful to my anger. It pushed me to have difficult conversations and guard my boundaries. Without it, I...

Do you believe that your core self is constant no matter where you live and how old you get? Gestalt therapy believes the self is not...

Many of my clients talked about how much they suffered from procrastination. For some, the reason behind their procrastination is the...

Nostalgia is both sad and beautiful. Practicing in New York as a psychotherapist gives me the privilege of witnessing people's...

Death anxiety is tricky. It's contained in every living moment, but it is also masked creatively by all of us. Some use love affairs to...

I'm often amazed by the courage, resilience and humanity my clients show in sessions. And I'm equally fascinated by the malice, jealousy...

The power of initiation is often overlooked because people tend to focus on either the process or the result. Think about the last time...

We are often so concerned with how we are relating to others, we forget to pause and check if we are getting along with ourselves. Time...

在成为心理咨询师之前，我曾经在纽约一所国际高中里担任了几年学校心理辅导老师，深入了解过许多新移民家庭的烦恼和喜悦。最大的一点感悟是老师们交到我手上的可能是一个个“问题少年”，可真正和这些孩子交流后却发现，他们的家庭和成长环境荆棘丛生，往往是培育出他们“问题”的温床。如果家长...

几年前刚开始做心理咨询师时，连我这个从业人员心里都有些惴惴不安，总怕光靠说话不能真正地帮到来访者，只能给到心理作用。工作一段时间后，从最初新手的紧张中解放出来，再加上到如今快两年的个人咨询体验，我终于可以肯定地说，心理咨询对于想要探索自己（哪怕一开始并不自知）并且自我实现的...

好像每隔几个月甚至几周，我就会看到女孩被男友或追求者以各种残忍手段杀害的新闻。一个月前，22岁的女孩陈某在浙江慈溪被前男友吴某连刺7刀身亡，5刀在脖子上，2刀在腰上，因为她想分手。今年3月28日，安徽芜湖，30岁的丹丹开车去警局递送前男友王某打她的资料，在路上被王某撞车。在...

作为一个心理咨询师，我被问最多的问题之一就是“我朋友/家人最近不太对劲，好像总是很忧郁，也不回复消息，我该怎么帮他？” 我的答案是：聆听他的困扰，不要否定他的感受，必要时带他去找专业的帮助。聆听对方说来容易，可其实我们大部分人在面对他人真正的烦恼时，潜意识里是抗拒的，要做到...